Love is Like a Sourdough Starter
Maybe Love is like sourdough starter: it grows on its own, but if you don’t feed it, and keep using it, it will run out. The love of hearts and chocolates is just one type. This Valentine’s Day, think of ALL the love you have.
To encourage change, try reflections instead of questions
I think about being efficient and effective in my therapeutic relationship, knowing that the client benefits greatly from a solid therapeutic relationship, and it is my job as a practitioner to build it. When someone is talking to me about their issues, I use “reflections”, usually complex ones, instead of questions. They are much more effective at building a strong therapeutic relationship and therefore, encouraging change.
This Burden
This is another poem I wrote about the weight and fatigue of surviving life’s difficulties, and how just holding someone’s burden for a moment can make a huge difference to them.
Preparing for Old Age : The Big Questions
Your post-retirement life can now be a long period of time, yet aside from financial planning, few people really think about how they want to be in these important years of their life. It’s worth it to ponder this sooner rather than later.
When Does Recovery Become Living Fully?
Does the term “recovery” serve populations already stigmatized by previous behaviours? Or would a larger perspective be more helpful?
Why Wouldn’t You Want to Learn Motivational Interviewing?
When we offer unsolicited solutions, it passes the message to our clients that they are incompetent in their own lives, demobilises them and makes our job harder. This is why MI is a useful and practice-changing client-centered approach.
Giving Up Something You Love… For a Life You Can Live
Whether someone chooses to give up a passion like tennis or gambling, they will suffer a loss of what they loved. Compassion is crucial as they follow through with either decision.
What To Do With a Discouragement Day?
Discouragement is not something to be feared or ignored. Perhaps, allowing ourselves to explore it can be helpful.
When Expectations Bite You in the Butt…
Are all expectations bad? What happens when we don’t do well or we don’t do as expected? What is a healthier way to tackle expectations?
Not My Circus, Not My Monkey
If we could stop taking on other people’s responsibilities and focus more closely on our own, we might find ourselves with more energy, patience and time for the important things.
In the New Year 2015
Sometimes we get so hung up on what we want to accomplish that we don’t notice what we are experiencing on the way.
Love What You Have (or the Point of Comparison)
So often we get caught up in the appearances of things and relationships around us without really knowing what the truth is underneath and the cost of what we are seeing.
Forgiveness
Whereas we may fret over courses like calculus that most of us will never need, a course in forgiveness would be of much better service in life.
Taking it Personally
Most often, a hurtful comment is more about the speaker than the receiver. Others’ opinion, even of you, has nothing to do with you.
How to Survive Winter…
Many in northern climates complain about the cold and dark winters, but is this helpful? How to combat the winter blues.
Busy, Busy, Busy – What’s the Process and What’s the Outcome?
Most of us pay too much attention to our To Do lists, focussing on the outcome. But focussing on the process is so much richer!
Gratitude
Do you stop and notice what you’re grateful for often? Enough? It could replace worrying and other troublesome emotions.