We are living through something surreal, parallel worlds: one in which nothing is happening, most of it via the ethernet. One in which there is real news, skewed news and utterly fake news. The only way out is through. My humanity is seeking touch, intimacy, security. How is your humanity weathering this storm?
Most helping professionals have heard that up to 75% of the effectiveness of any therapeutic approach is due to the quality of the therapeutic alliance. Strangely, few are ever taught now to create that crucial relationship. MI can fill that gap.
For people who talk for a living, four days of silence at a retreat is an interesting contrast and frankly, for me, a welcome relief. Whatever advice or wisdom we encounter, so often shared with our clients, is turned inwards, to nourish ourselves.
Neither being a people-pleaser in a relationship - consistently countering one’s own preferences to the benefit of others - nor being with a people-pleaser are situations well-suited to developing deep and lasting relationships.
Psychologists, social workers, etc. have been taught to dig into what is wrong with our clients, as if we’re taught to discourage them first, then help them out of the hole we helped dig! What would happen if instead we looked at their strengths?